Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Forget Facebook - be my Valentine

Young@Heart by Pam Young

For more than 35 years, New York Times best-selling author Pam Young has been the “get organized guru” thru thousands of newspaper articles, magazine feature stories and radio and TV interviews.  A frequent guest on Oprah, Regis, Today Show,700 Club, CBS Morning News and many more, Pam has guided and helped women turn their chaotic homes into havens of peace and order.

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I have a hard time with “social networking.” I even hired a person to help me learn how to use it to spread my ideas for finding joy in everything we do. Unfortunately that joy often eludes me when it comes to Facebook. I’ve learned how to get onto my Facebook page for Make it Fun and my husband’s and my personal pages. I’ve been “liking” stuff and “commenting,” but I’m not sure what happens to those likes and comments?

The other day, I went on my husband’s page to see who he had as friends (he’s never been on his page) and found he had four friends and guess who was at the top of his wanna be friends list? My ex-husband! Now why in the world does my ex-husband want to be friends with my husband? I deleted him with glee. Now that was fun!

Because of Nelly, my inner child and new helper, I have been playing a lot on Facebook. When I first went to my personal Facebook page I discovered my own husband wasn’t a “friend.”  So I asked him to be my friend. Now I don’t mind asking him to be my friend, but I refuse to ask people I don’t know to be friends with me. And when I get a request from someone who wants to be friends and I don’t know him or her, it bothers me. When I see that they know someone I know, then I’m fine with accepting their friendship, but I still feel shallow about it. 

I remember reading one of Shirley MacLaine’s books and in it she said that she hosted a party for 3,000 of her closest friends. I thought, ‘how does anyone have time for 3,000 people in a close way?’ (Of course I remember reading her confession that she slept with three men in one day, so maybe she really did have 3,000 close friends.) By the way, I went on her Facebook page and, bless her heart, she has no friends! 

I know part of my problem is I love spending most of my time in the real world, away from my computer, so most of my so-called “friends” on Facebook are a little bit of a mystery to me. And Linkedin? (I just found out it’s pronounced “linked in.”  I’ve been reading it as “Lin ke din” a three syllable word as meaningless as say, “mu te ga” or “zo pa dee.) To this day I still can’t get onto my Linkedin page because even though I got a new password, a sign comes up that says, “You have the wrong server.” What?  Excuse me? My server works just fine, thank you very much.  Link You!

As far as asking people to “like” my page, I find that very difficult. I was taught I shouldn’t ask anyone to like me. It sounds needy and I know I have to get around this notion to be able to play on Facebook. I’ve been told if I’m going to play on the internet I have to be active on Facebook and since I’m supposed to get people to “like” my Make if Fun page, I have done my fair share of begging.

Today it hit me! It’s Valentine’s Day and it’s okay to ask if you’ll be my valentine. So in the Spirit of St. Valentine, please, oh please, oh pleeeeze be my Valentine on Facebook! Shirley MacLaine eat your heart out.

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